When it comes to matters of the heart, there is a lot of advice out there. Some good, some not so good. In fact, there is so much advice it can be overwhelming. And the funny part is, no one is perfect when it comes to relationships of the romantic kind.
Of course there is some amazing support out there, programs, courses, tips, techniques and books out there ready to help you find your perfect partner or helping to strengthen your existing relationship.
But there’s one aspect of love that is rarely discussed, but that I find so profound I have to share it with you. This one aspect concerns our beliefs about what love is. Namely, we believe that we have to go out and find love. That once we find the perfect partner, who loves and nurtures us, we’ll reciprocate in kind. Stated another way, we believe that we cannot express our love until we find that perfect person.
Why is this a misnomer? Because it assumes that love is something that exists outside of us. More specifically, it assumes that we cannot feel loved until someone loves us first. But that’s simply untrue. Right now, this very minute, whether you have a special someone in your life or not, you have the capacity to feel loved in every fiber of your being. It’s simply a matter of allowing the love to spring up inside you and envelop you.
You see, we’ve been taught to close the valves on love until the perfect external circumstance presents itself (namely the manifestation of a special someone). But that’s simply a choice you make. You just didn’t know that you had a choice at all. But you always did and you always will.
You can decide right now to open the valve and experience that amazing loving feeling you’ve been holding for someone. Why wait? For what purpose? Isn’t the feeling of love the grandest feeling you can think of? So, why are you denying that feeling.
This is a complete paradigm shift from everything you’ve been taught as a child. And it’s an empowering one at that. But it’s more than a paradigm shift. It’s also the key to manifesting that special someone. That’s the whole irony of it all.
Let me explain in some detail, to clarify. The basis of law of attraction (see related articles at the bottom of this post to understand law of attraction) is that like vibrations attract like vibration. Very quickly, at our core we’re nothing but energy vibrating at different frequencies. The frequencies shift based on how we feel. The frequency of love is different from the frequency of depression. So, when we say like vibration attracts like vibration, we mean that you get what you feel. Feel appreciative and you get more to appreciate.
In the context of this article, then, when you feel love you attract more love. In other words, you cannot attract love when you feel lonely, or unloved. Intuitively, this makes a lot of sense. Coming back full circle, when you open the valves and allow yourself to love and feel loved, you’re moving into the vibrational frequency where more love can come into your life.
Now, you may be asking how do I feel loved, when I don’t have a significant other who loves me. Good question. The answer is to love yourself. When you learn to love yourself, you have the opportunity to feel loved whenever you want. If you don’t know if you love yourself (which by the way is common), then stand in front of a mirror and say it to yourself. Say “I love you” and observe how you feel. Are you uncomfortable? Is your immediate reaction negative or judgmental? Or, does it feel totally natural?
If you find that you really don’t love yourself and then decide to learn to love yourself. Find a book or course or program or a coach to help you. This alone can completely change your life.
So, there you have it, a completely different view on love. Unorthodox yes, but it also makes a lot of sense. Meditate on the ideas here a little and you’ll intuitively see the sense in it. You will also be laying the groundwork to manifesting the special someone.